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The prologue goes – Someone is saying: ‘You have to understand: This is not your husband anymore, not a beloved person, but a radioactive object with a strong density of poisoning. Get ahold of yourself.’ And I’m like someone who’s lost her mind: ‘But I love him! Several of my friends who discovered Alexievich post-Nobel (she got the NP last year) said this to me: “She is something else.” That evening a few days ago, she emptied out my office, in a minute, and refilled it with her air. ’ I was by the way in the Ukraine when Chernobyl happened. When this feels like an impossible task, I read Alexievich. “There is no social movement,” Nigel Denning says to me, “around systemic child sexual abuse. More – None of the doctors knew I was staying with him at night in the bio-chamber. Eleven, clueless, but then the whole country was clueless. I’ve listened to and read most things I can find on Alexievich, every interview Alexievich has given, just about – in English and in Russian – including the one hosted by New York Public Library where Masha Gessen asked about her experience of “extreme fame”. The “we” Alexievich speaks to in her books doesn’t exist, it is created by her address, by the space she makes for the solitary human voice to speak, and be heard, anew. We are so far off as a society in acknowledging the systemic perpetration.” He says, “It’s almost a public shaming of institutions that’s needed. In a sense, it’s like a series of boxes on boxes on boxes.” Remember Lyusya’s husband, the “human nuclear reactor”, from Voices from Chernobyl? Related: Tips on Taking Your Tinder Game to the Next Level—Straight from the App's VP, Whitney Wolfe We asked Leigh, London-based pickup coach Kezia Noble, and NYC's "guru of all things love" Amy Van Doran for a few of their best tips on, yes, picking up men. Add this to the sad-but-true files: "Men who are in relationships usually don't bother with grocery shopping," Kezia Noble notes. Your next fling might be no further than the Whole Foods' dairy aisle. "If they go clothes-shopping, nine times out of 10 their girlfriends [are] with them, so look out for men shopping on their own—this is a good way to see if they're single," she explains. By now we all know that looks aren't everything (right? But your physical appearance and the way you dress convey messages about what's important to you—including what kind of partner you're potentially looking for. (For what it's worth, Leigh usually opts for the indirect approach herself.) 5.Keep in mind—this isn't about desperation or cheap sex. (Other top spots to scout for men are gyms, museums, and libraries.) For her part, Arden Leigh recommends doing things in groups and having a "fulfilling social circle." She suggests joining "a running club, chess club, or philosophy meetup; wherever you think you'll find people with similar interests. "Knowing your type is important," Amy Van Doran says. Noble suggests distinctly making eye contact if you spot a man you're interested in: "Women need to remember that behind all that cocky banter, men are actually incredibly frightened of women." Initiating eye contact can help give the poor fellow a little courage. TAILOR YOUR CONVERSATION TO WHERE YOU ARE (AND WHO HE IS).It is not an act of taking, or of re-assembly, or of what Nicolas Rothwell has described, in relation to books of Aboriginal history written by non-indigenous historians, often with great intentions, as works of preservation that always get sucked into processes of cultural dispersion. It was Alexievich who made me ask whether witnessing was more like spending the night with the person in the bio-chamber. There is a window of opportunity around the Royal Commission. The opportunity is to make some kind of meaningful change on a societal level. Two hours of talking to them, maybe two and a half. I felt like I told a story that could be turned into a horror movie. She said, ‘You did really, really well.’ When I came out I had to sleep. Not once in my life did anyone come up to me and say, ‘What’s wrong? My children, when I finally told them, had great fear that I would get sick again. Primo Levi talked about the story being unlistened-to. The night in which you burn together: this may sound almost obscenely romantic. The danger is that the Royal Commission actually becomes a destructive process because it creates a false perception that we have done something when we haven’t. I can think of a few people who felt relieved, thank God, two years of my life have gone into writing my story. “Oh, Masha, it’s terrible,” Alexievich said so very quickly. I want to take it away from you,’ it would be amazing. I was having a chat to my friend Melinda Harvey (Melinda’s here, tonight) about this lecture, I was feeling rather anxious about it, and I said, “Why am I talking about Alexievich in trying to talk about the Royal Commission? Like holding a mirror to an institution to say this is what you have done. He was buried barefoot – no shoes would fit him – in his formal wear.
So easy for that “we” to become polemical, to become nothing. When I am walking streets of Melbourne, I cannot stop myself from imagining abused children hiding in adult bodies. When you hear the term "pickup artists," what—or who—do you envision?I want this voice to talk to you directly about the Royal Commission. So hard to do everything – reliving a lot of things and being ill at the same time. I thank profoundly the woman whose voice it is, who spoke to me, she too is “something else” but I will not reveal her name.
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